Starting School – My Experiences & Help for you
Not that time Again!
It is nearly that time again, sadly, the sun has gone and so have most of the school holidays. This year they seem to have gone by in a flash, our bucket list of things to do this summer still has plenty to tick off and time is not on our side.
I am a mum of two boys, who has managed to get both children through primary school and one through secondary school and I am still here to tell the tale!
It is not easy the first day at primary or secondary school, I would say starting either brings plenty of uncertain and worrying times for both the child and the parent.
Keep it together
It is important to try and ‘keep it together’ at least until you have given them the last wave and they are safely in school, and then let the water works out.
I found a good cry and talking to other parents who were also going through the same thing helped me. Knowing I was not the only one worrying “will they make friends” or “will they get bullied”.
I may have been the only one who cried for hours on my sons first day at school and that wasn’t just when he started primary I did it all again when he started secondary school, going from The oldest ‘Top dog’s’ in primary to the youngest and it seems most vulnerable in secondary school.
A Little Reassurance for you
I can however reassure you that both my children settled in to school life really well and the anxiety and worry was mainly with me.
It does not feel like it right now to all parents who have a little one starting school and I know you will have heard it all before but it really is not all that scary behind the School doors. The teachers are not all dragons and they do really care about not only your child’s education but also their welfare too.
The Best Thing’s you can do!
I used to be a Teaching assistant in a primary school , so I have seen plenty of first days and believe me the best thing you can do for your child is be strong and brave, pass this on to them so they do not sense and take on your anxiety.
I have seen plenty of clingy children practically wrapped around their parents legs and within an hour of being in school they are having fun sorting shapes, arts and crafts or in the reading corner with plenty of teddies to cuddle up to.
Do not behave like me and hover near the window desperate to get a glimpse of my son, so I could walk away knowing he had a friend or was not sat alone in a corner. What could I have done anyway? Storm into school and demand my son has a friend. Hopefully skills and behaviour they learn at home will help them develop their first little friendships. My youngest son is 12 and he is still best friends with the first boy he met when he started school.
The teachers and teaching assistants are super skilled in dealing with children on their first days, even newly qualified teachers have had tonnes of experience in school during their training and the teaching assistants are there to mop up any tears and help children get involved.
So ease up your worries, take a big deep breath and tell your child what an exciting adventure they will have starting School.
Just do not forget the tissues!