First year at high school!
When my son started high school this year, I must admit I was quite happy because he had struggled so much at primary school, A fresh start was on the cards for him at last. Now I know I still have reservations about high school, but yet I was reassured by the fact my eldest son had got through his time there without any major upset.
Happy then Sad
Now my youngest son is a very laid back character and generally worries about nothing and I mean nothing, but more recently he has changed. I have noticed that he appears to have become a little stressed and this is predominantly before bed and before school, this is increasingly getting worse, especially on route to school, He has also started to ask for the day off, this really isn’t like him at all. Knowing our children like many parents do, I worry that maybe he is being bullied or possibly struggling with schoolwork. A few weeks ago, he started to really dislike physical education class.
The Disappearing Shoe!
He inadvertently came home and said naively “It’s strange I have a disappearing shoe”, he then laughed. I asked him “What do you mean” and it transpired that he had actually been looking for his school shoe the entire lunch break. He had started his PE Class as normal by getting changed like the rest of the boys in the changing room, he placed his shoes down next to the rest of his clothes. When he returned, he started to get dressed and noticed his right shoe was missing, eventually he found the shoe towards the back-end of his lunch break “almost 30 minutes later” tucked in a kit bag which belonged to the school.
Not the First Time!
My youngest said that this was the second time this had happened and the week before this incident, he found a shoe tucked away inside of a toilet bowl. I mean, how low is that, luckily it didn’t get wet.Jake wanted to deal with this on his own and spoke to his PE Teacher,They allowed him to leave his clothes and shoes with the teachers belongings. The really sad thing is, my youngest is a young minded 11-year-old and he genuinely didn’t think someone was playing tricks on him at school, which they clearly were.
Why I am, Worried!
Now every Monday when school comes around, he asks in fact begs for the day off with no real excuse. It’s really starting to make me think that maybe there might be something else going on which he is not telling me. I know he keeps things to himself (very much like my husband) and they try to cope on their own without any help from others until it usually goes wrong for them. What could it be? I have spoken to him and he assures me he is not being bullied but I know there is something he is not telling me, mainly due to his vacant look and nervous demeanor. He just usually replies “No, I just can’t be bothered with school today”. Seriously, this is really unlike him because he loves learning and reading all the time at home and at school.
Am I being Paranoid?
Could this just be his tween transition? Or do you think it could be more than that. I could do with a little guidance here because I don’t want to come across as a paranoid mummy or keep pushing my son for information he may well not have. This is the first time I have really had to worry about my children not fitting in at school, my eldest, although he didn’t like school never really had any problems.
I have spoken to the school regarding this just so they can keep an eye on him, but we all know how hard that can be I mean he is not the only child in the school and I know they can’t always focus on one child. They took everything down and reassured me I would get a call the next day, well 7 days later and I am still waiting!
So the question I ask, is my son being bullied?
Any help or advice on this subject would be extremely helpful and your experience may help me and others.