There are lots of reasons for wanting to do a long-distance move. Perhaps you’ve always dreamt of living somewhere far away. Or perhaps a once-in-a-lifetime job opportunity has come up. You may even be eager to return to your hometown and reunite with relatives.
Whatever the case, you need to be sure that moving is the right decision – not just for you, but also for your family. Below are a few questions to ask yourself to determine whether a long-distance move is good for everyone.
Are you reuniting with family?
If your partner and kids are already living somewhere else and you are currently in a happy long-distance relationship, then moving to be closer with them is of course the right thing to do. When it comes to moving to other countries, your partner may be able to get you a spouse visa if they are already living in that country – this could enable you to all be reunited. It depends a lot on personal circumstances.
If you want to move somewhere to be close to your parents or other relatives, you need to be sure that your partner is happy with this. This could be particularly the case if you are asking your partner to leave behind their blood relatives in return.
Is it a temporary move?
If you’re thinking of moving somewhere for a Long-Distance Move for a few months or a year – possibly for work or to be close to a relative who may need your care – you may have to decide whether it’s worth you moving and your partner and kids staying behind. This could save you from having to uproot everyone when you’re only going to be staying somewhere for a temporary period.Long-distance relationships can be hard to manage and you need to be sure that you’re strong enough to cope through this period. If your partner and kids have no commitments (i.e. if your partner does not have to work from a fixed location and if your kids are not yet in school), then it’s possible they may be able to move with you temporarily.
How do your kids and partner feel about moving?
It’s worth having a family discussion to work out how everyone feels about moving. If kids are very young, then it may not matter too much about getting their opinion. However, if kids are settled in school and have friends, then it could be worth talking to them about how they feel. Older kids are likely to be most affected by a move – in this situation if you and your partner want to move, but your kid doesn’t, you may want to consider whether it’s worth holding off a few years.
Your partner will likely be the one that needs the most convincing. If they have a good job and enjoy being close to friends and family, it’s unlikely they’ll want to move. In other cases, you may find that your partner is willing to take on the adventure with you.
What new opportunities are there for your kids and partner?
It could be important to look into local opportunities when planning where to move to. You may want to research into local schools and see what kids entertainment facilities there are in the area. When it comes to your partner, you may want to consider their career prospects, as well as their hobbies and interests.