Real womens, Real thoughts on breast feeding.
What do others people think of breastfeeding in public?
During a baby shower I arranged for my sister, our conversation turned to breastfeeding, something my sister is playing to do for as long as she is able to do so.
I can honestly say I was utterly shocked by some of the reactions and views that other women have regarding breast-feeding.
I am all for everyone having your own opinion, but I can honestly saw my jaw nearly hit the floor whilst talking to this room full of women.
My Breastfeeding experience
I breastfed both my children, granted it only lasted between 10 and 14 days before I gave up and hit the bottle ( the formula milk kind, the wine came later! )
I must admit I felt slightly pressured into breastfeeding my first child, I was a young mum and looked like a child myself, so I wanted to do everything by the book mainly to impress the midwives and health visitors.I had also read my bounty book and new of the long-term benefits breast milk gives your child, especially during the first week.
I tried so hard to master the art of breastfeeding, latching on was the easy part for me, although I was often found sitting with the hairdryer aimed at my nipples to stop the intense pain I had.
Producing the milk was the reason I gave up breastfeeding.I would sit for up to an hour feeding my little one, he would still cry as he was not satisfied enough with the quality of milk I was giving him.
My last straw came when I walked to a local shop which was only a five-minute walk away from my home, I got to the end of the street when I was called back as he wa screaming for more food!
I couldn’t even express enough milk to fill a bottle, this is when I realised that whilst I was trying to give my little one the best start I was actually just leaving him hungry.
As soon as he started on formula milk he turned in to a very happy content baby and I could relax and be a better mummy.So I never got to the stage of breast-feeding in public.
The same scenario happened with my second son, I managed to feel less guilty this time as I knew it wasn’t my fault, I just couldn’t produce enough milk and the quality of the milk I was producing was just not good enough.At least both my babies were able to get the colostrum from the first weeks breast milk.
Women’s thoughts on Breastfeeding in public
I just assumed most women would be very understanding and all for breastfeeding in public, I thought if anyone would find it offensive it would be the male species.
Whilst at the baby shower we were all discussing breastfeeding, I was shocked when I discovered over half of the women there either wouldn’t breastfeed in public or didn’t like to see other mums breastfeeding their babies whilst out and about.
Some even went as far as to say they found it very offensive and would put them off their lunch. Even though I don’t agree with this, I admire there honesty.
One mum felt so strongly that her breasts were for her and her partner, not for feeding a baby with.
Out of all the women there only three mums had breastfed their babies and only one had carried on past the first two weeks.
If I was in a room full of men I would have expected these thoughts and feelings, I was totally in shock and maybe slightly naive in thinking every mother found this the most normal thing to do.
My jaw almost hit the floor when one of the ladies told me that whilst out on a family birthday, her brothers friend was eating his food whilst at the next table a women was breastfeeding her baby. Instead of turning away and carrying on with his meal, he stood up and walked over to the next table and told the mum that her breastfeeding was putting him off his food, he went one step further and asked her to stop feeding her own baby or move somewhere out of sight.
I thought we were living in the 21st century, maybe someone should have told him this.
Women need to be encouraged with regards to breastfeeding and not be gawped at or insulted. I really thought times had moved on, sadly the prejudice seems to be still there.
I would love to hear your breastfeeding stories positive or negative, have you come across any negativity or do you disagree with breastfeeding in public yourself.