Have Trouble Getting Help from a Lazy Husband/Partner? here is the solution!
How do I get my husband to help with the housework?
I have tried so hard to get my husband to be more domesticated around our home and although he isn’t that bad his consistency is rather terrible and he is the first to admit it.
What Benefits are there to your husband helping out?
There are so many benefits, whilst some of us stay at home to turn a home into our castle, unlike when you are employed we need days off too. Without the unlikely help from a domestic fairy we usually have no chance of getting the help we need. I have told my husband that I wouldn’t be as tired and feel as stressed if I got a little help around the house.If he could do even some of the jobs around our home, it would have an enormous impact. We would have more time for each other and to function better as a family (Although we don’t do that bad really).
How can I get my husband to be more consistent around the home and do his jobs?
Talk about things that upset you, I don’t mean argue or shout as this solves absolutely nothing. I mean talk have a heart to heart about how you are feeling and start praising each other efforts to make your home feel cosy and comfortable.
What did we decided to do?
Here is the thing my husband came up with, a really playful and fun solution. His idea was to make a Husband reward chart, this I suppose is inspired by super nanny and how she uses charts for children. Laminate the template and get a marker pen (Preferable a wipeable one) and tick the stars each day.
I have uploaded the chart so our readers can also use the same template, there are two different versions that I have made (If you would like me to add anything just ask).
Number 1. Lazy-Husband-Free-Printable-Template
Number 2. Lazy-Husband-Free-Printable-Template
What sort of things do I want him to do around the home?
Cooking, I just want a day off from time to time and I know my husband is a terrible cook., but I know he has it in him and he does too.
Cleaning my husband is great at cleaning but once he does it he soon creates mess again, so all I want is him to be a little bit more tidy.
DIY, this one is funny because he is great at DIY when he can be bothered, I must say he is very crafty as well.
What Rewards should I give him?
Well Some of the rewards can be left to the imagination, so without set rewards on the chart you can both come up with some great ideas together. I would also like to say that we have had a lots of fun using this template and I have seen small yet promising changes.
Haha great idea but I think this would have mine in a bigger mood then before lol
When I approached the subject with Mark i thought that might happen to be honest, i mean men can be moody sometimes and I would say on a par with us women. I was shocked when he came up with this idea and really jumped on board with it, i am sure you can think of a few good ideas as a weekly reward.
I love this idea – may have to show Steve! Haha x
haha love this idea. My boyfriend is pretty good at cleaning if I do the cooking but it would be great to share the jobs out more.
I mentioned this to my other half and he said only if he can do a chart for me too. Cheeky sod! x
What a fab idea – do we get to sit them on the naughty step too if they don’t behave?
That would be a brilliant idea ha!
Wow. My hubby hits the roof is I even ask him to wash up.
I love this!!!
fab idea, it does seem like i do most of the housework, would be fab if we could share it more fairly xxx
My husband’s pretty good around the house when he can- he’s disabled but he still does his bit, bless him x
Ha I do love this idea and could be a lot of fun but I have to say I am very lucky with my hubby doing his fair share (and more!)
Sounds like a great idea to me LOL!
I think this is a wonderful idea and i think it may work too sometimes they need to see exactly what we do before they realise they could and should help!!! My husband thinks because he works he does his bit!!! Reality check sunshine!!!
Would love to know if this is working!! My husband is pretty good and gets a lot done on a Saturday while I go out to work 🙂
My hubby is pretty particular about cleaning, hes very organised whereas i prefer the lived in look. We have decided to share housework out more but i think where he is out of work atm he cleans to keep busy. Would be interested to see if this works though as i think it could help alot of people 😀
its quite clever because it seems to be a big issue in families ive noticed, i personally think though that is is quite laughable, like seriously? i dnt think it would work because its a wierd bribery for grown man…
It was done more in fun than as a serious chart, We find it funny especially the kids when dad achieves a sticker for his chart. It makes us all laugh and my husband does a couple more jobs around the home, just so we can give him a tick on his chart and he can prove he can actually help out at home.We all know it is not serious, it is a joke that can actually make us discuss that I need more help in the home.
Seems a GOOD IDEA. Lucky you that your Husband is agreeable. After all it is a ‘Partnership’. Also in today’s modern world, it is preferable to be able to be independent. Then there is no need to rely on another, whilst if you choose or have the option of sharing your life and chores with another. Then you can negotiate regards chores etc. Whilst support others if they become unwell, following childbirth etc, etc. Added Skills :- So of benefit in the Modern World :- ‘ NEW MAN’ ?? WELL DONE!
As things are he is helping out a little bit more, he ticked 5 jobs off the to-do list this week, they have been on there for months! Hopefully it will not be a phase and he will be a changed man.
Haha I love it, but I daren’t! I think I’d just get massive sulking. To be fair, he does cook dinner every day so I reckon I’m lucky compared to some.
Love this idea, although not sure hubby would be impressed!
This would be fantastic however 1 my partner is stubborn and 2 he works throughout the summer so the chores would still beleft to me think i’ll just plug on with life xx
i am going to try this husband reward chart this week…hope everything should go well..
Good Luck x