My son’s 13th Birthday is only one day away, so I was fully aware that times would change and that I would be the mum of 2 teenagers. I was not however expecting the changes to come just so quickly and for my sweet kind hearted 12 year old little boy to be replaced with a hormone fuelled grunting mini man overnight! I mean it only feels like two minutes since he started school.
The changes acted out like a scene in a Hollywood movie, very over the top and impossible to believe. My 12 year old son went to school one morning and when I returned to collect him from the school gates and although it may well be me, but he just looked so different. OK, logically I know he is the same child I walked into school the same morning, but he just looked like a year 10 rather than a year 8 pupil.
He looks so grown up! I never quite realised the change from pre-teen to teen could happen so quickly. Had I been walking around with my head in the clouds for the last few months or was it that his changes have happened almost overnight.
Pre-Teen to Teen Warning Signs I missed
These are the warning signs I missed. My son has developed greasy skin with the odd outbreaks of spots. Jake has always been one for being a massive conversationalist in fact I love how he speaks so passionately about topics he like, alas this has now been replaced by. He also used to sit with us on an evening, which he still does from time to time, but hibernating in his bedroom with his feet up and a game controller in his hand, only making an appearance when he can smell food seems to becoming the norm these days. It breaks my heart to see that my little boys have changed so much and I miss them both being toddlers so much it hurts sometimes.
Pre-Teen to Teen Second time around
I have an older son Lewis who is now 18, so you would think I would have been prepared for these sudden hormone changes. How wrong was I to expect both of my boys to grow in the same way, they are like chalk and cheese. My eldest son seemed to change over a period of time, showing a glimpse of puberty with all the usual pre-teen to teen changes such as greasy hair, spots, lack of conversation and an inability to leave his room. OK, that is similar but like I say I just did not notice the change like I have in Jake.
You hear stories of boys voices breaking, going from a high pitched squeal to a deep mature sound over a number of months or years. What I did not expect was for this change to happen to my 12 year old during a School day! Where had this new voice just sprung from and why couldn’t I have had some warning. To say I was freaked out was an understatement
During the same evening I actually thought it was my 18 year old son who replied back when I shouted “Dinner Time.” The voice that came back from his bedroom was surely not my sweet, softly spoken little boy who replied “Coming” but it was.
Who is that singing in his room?
The biggest and weirdest moment came when he was singing in his bedroom. He is now singing with an amazingly deep tuneful voice, one I did not recognise and that brought tears to my eyes.
My son normally had a very high, angelic, choir boy voice although, his new singing voice matched his 5ft 8 inch frame. As I stood there listening it felt like there was a stranger behind my sons bedroom door. His voice is not dipping in and out of this new deep tone, It has just changed and seems to be staying for keeps. He will be giving Tom Jones a run for his money soon ha!
Puberty has made his moods change frequently and without warning. Me and my son both seem confused by his up and down mood swings and you van see the battle with his mood changes are painfully visible as he apologises for being snappy at times.
If all these pre-teen to teen changes are quite apparent to me, then what hormone changes and effects must be going on inside his body. He is forming his own personality away from me and beginning to develop his own thoughts and strong opinions.
It’s always hard for a mother to watch her children grow. I am super proud of both of my sons and although I hate that they are growing up so fast I can not wait tot see what there future has in store. No matter what they achieve in life I will be proud of them for at very least trying and knowing my two boys quite well they certainly are triers. Maybe I should write a letter to them both a little like this Mum did to her Pre-Teen Daughter, it seems she may be going through similar changes.
So In between the Kevin and Perry style moans and groans I try to remember this is just a part of life we all go through and Jake will always be just like my eldest son, my sweet innocent little boys.
Is anyone else feeling the same? I would love to hear your thoughts, should this be making me feel upset or not.